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There are two mental states that must be satisfied before anyone will willingly kick the smoking habit. These elements are called “Desire,” and “Decision.”

DESIRE: A want, crave or a wish for

DECISION: Making up of one’s mind / a verdict or judgment

In order to stop smoking, a smoker must have a DESIRE to kick the addiction. You probably want to stop smoking, at least some part of you does, or you wouldn’t be reading this article.

In addition, in order to stop smoking, a smoker must DECIDE to give up the habit. Since you haven’t quit smoking, it simply means that you have not DECIDED to break the smoking habit yet.

So what you need is to feel a strong provocation to make a “DECISION” to break the smoking habit.

MOTIVATION, we all need it. The starting place for each of our motivations is a belief. Think about it, if you did not believe that you would get hurt if you drank poison, you would not experience motivation to be careful. If you did not believe that the gnawing feeling in your stomach meant that you were hungry, you wouldn’t feel motivated to eat.

When it comes to breaking the smoking habit, people need to feel lots of motivation to make the DECISION to stop. Motivation is based on the thoughts that we believe. So you will need to DECIDE exactly which ideas would motivate you if you believed them. Because when you feel powerfully motivated, you will stop smoking.

Thanks to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and self-hypnosis for motivation, it is a lot easier to learn how to believe these new ideas than you probably think. However, you do not believe the ideas that will motivate you to stop smoking at this point in time, or you would have already broken the smoking addiction.

For the purpose of this discussion, we need to define a few words.

DOUBT: Uncertain/distrustful/dubious – “maybe it’s this way, and maybe it is not.”

BELIEF: Trust/faith/tenet – A state of mind devoid of all doubt. In other words, belief means, “this is the way that it is.”

HIGHLY VALUED CRITERIA: What is most important to you, as an individual.

When you totally believe that if you continue to smoke your highly valued criterion is jeopardized, you will feel the motivation that you need to stop smoking cigarettes. We call this a negative motivator, because it is a belief that motivates by giving you awful feelings. Negative motivators are great for getting you to make changes.

When you believe that if you do break the smoking habit, your highly valued criteria will become enhanced, then you will also feel the motivation that you require to stop smoking. This is a positive motivator, because it motivates you by promising good sensations if you break the smoking habit.

The first chore is for you to DECIDE what the most vital aspects of your life are. Your most highly valued criteria are usually things that you cannot see. For example: Money would not be highly valued criteria, but the freedom, fun, or security that money can provide would be highly valued criteria. Write your list of highly valued criteria down on a piece of paper.

Next you need to figure out what you need to believe to feel motivated to give up cigarettes. Here is the good news, sort of: Logic has nothing to do with belief. Things don’t have to be logical for a person to believe them. As a matter of fact, they rarely are. So do not worry about logic!

The format for your negative motivator beliefs will be: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, something shocking will happen to my most highly valued criteria.”

Make sure that you frame your motivators in the positive. In other words, always state what you want or what will happen. Never state what will not happen. Eliminate the “not” word from the beliefs.

In this example we will say that your children’s welfare is your most highly valued criteria.

WRONG: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, I won’t be doing my kid’s health any good.”

CORRECT: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will ruin my children’s health.”

Next, create a list of positive motivators. “I believe that if I stop smoking: (something very important will be enhanced).”

WRONG: “I believe that if I stop smoking, I won’t harm my kid’s health.”

CORRECT: “I believe that if I stop smoking, my kids will be safer because I will eliminate their contact with the dangers of my secondhand smoke.”

The next step is to change the computer codes in your brain to make yourself actually believe these motivational ideas. Now for a bombshell: Belief has nothing to do with real logic. Instead, your beliefs have everything to do with what your perception of reality is. In other words, it has a lot to do with the way that you see things.

Our belief systems are based in our unconscious mind. The unconscious is like a computer. Computers do not reason. The input controls the output. To demonstrate, I want you to think of something that you already believe without the slightest bit of doubt. Make it a belief that gives you a good feeling.

For instance, it’s easy for most people to believe that they love their kids. If that is true for you, make a mental picture that makes you experience that love.

I’m going to ask some questions, and there are not any correct or incorrect answers.

Is your mental image a moving picture, or a still?

Is it in color, or in black and white?

Is it close or far?

Is it focused or fuzzy?

Is it normally bright, overly bright, or dim?

Is there a border on it?

Is it borderless?

Is it a panorama?

It does not matter what your answers are just write them down on a piece of paper. These are the computer codes that your subconscious uses to make you feel your feelings of belief. In this case they are the mental codes for positive belief, because you have chosen a belief that gives you a positive feeling. You have just calibrated your positive belief.

Every positive belief picture is bright and focused. If yours are not, you probably do not really have total belief. An element of doubt is probably present. So find another belief to calibrate.

If you think of something that you are unsure of, and you make a mental picture of it, one or more of these computer codes (which we call submodalities) will probably be different. Similarly, if you have a belief that gives you a negative feeling, (a negative belief): one or more of those codes will be different.

In Neuro-Linguistic Programming we call these particular computer codes visual submodalities.

Now you will need to calibrate a negative belief. So repeat the same exact process, but do so using an idea that you already believe, that makes you feel bad.

Once you have calibrated both your positive and negative beliefs, it is a simple thing to manipulate what you believe so you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to break the smoking habit.

So, to summarize, using the above example: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will make my children sick.”

1. Become aware of how motivated you feel to stop smoking.

2. Make a mental picture that illustrates the above belief.

3. Adjust the computer codes (visual submodalities) of the mental image to match the mental codes from your calibrated negative belief.

4. If you are right handed, move your eyeballs (and your mental image) up to your left and hold it there for five seconds. If you are left handed, go up to the right. This will make you memorize the belief.

5. Now sense how motivated you feel to stop smoking. Do you feel more motivated? Do you feel less motivated? Or are your feelings the same?

Using this method you can make yourself believe almost anything by making a picture in your mind that illustrates your new idea and then adjusting your mental picture to make it match your calibrated belief pictures.

And if you have a belief that is holding you back, you can use the same technique to change that belief to doubt by changing one or two of the submodalities and memorizing it that way.

Now that you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit, you will stop smoking. A DECISION to quit means: I’m quitting no matter how much it hurts. If you are similar to most people, you will not want to suffer through withdrawal. The good news is that you will not have to suffer. Because there are several hypnotic methods that can greatly reduce, or even completely eliminate all of the discomforts of withdrawal from the cigarette smoking addiction. And you can read about them in my library of unique and original hypnosis articles.

I also host a free entertaining video filled with quit smoking tips. It is titled “How To Stop Smoking The Easy Way.” It is available both on my site as well as most of the Web 2.0 video sites.

Author: Alan B. Densky
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